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Does he like me?
Okay, there are a couple of guys that I like, and I've never had a boyfriend before (I'm a junior in high school). I keep getting hints from other people that they like me, but I just don't have any clue whether or not they like me, and I really am getting tired of trying to listen to people who have no clue what they're talking about when they say that someone likes me. Any suggestions on how I can figure it out for myself without asking them straight out or asking their friends or mine?
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haha... i remember this stage... you can do many things. keep up now.
1) tell a blabbermouth you like him. she'll probably tell him and he might loosen up
2) my first relationship started when i was asked to be taken to a dance. casualy, mind you. then we got closer
3) become really good friends. anyhow, it's good to have friends. close enough to hug if you please. perhaps even a friendly kiss on the cheek like in some spanish countries. and as you get closer, mayhap you see something behind their eyes. look closely. act a little more cuddly than usual. boys aren't all that stupid. they might get a hint.
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Well you'd have to talk to them, and I'm not saying ask them who they like or anything, just simply start conversation, get to know them. If they like you they'll be glad to talk to you, but don't be surprised if they seem aloof at first, they might be shy. Talk to them a few times this will build up their confidence. If you seem to click don't be afraid to ask them if they would like to go somewhere with you. Many men actually find that as a turn on. Heck he might just ask you... and if they don't, don't worry one of these days you'll meet someone bold enough to ask you out ;)
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Sorry, but the only way to really do this correctly is to just ask him out. Messing around with this "Does he like me? Are there little signs?" crap is one of the biggest problems with relationships today. Honestly nobody will care if you ask him out and he's not interested. It might sting for a moment, but it'll over then. Besides, it's quite possible that he does. Just be honest with people and expect honesty in return. Don't try to constantly guess at hidden meanings and send vague signals. It's not good for anyone.
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First things first. One guy at a time. Pick one, find out information about him, then pursue him if he still interests you.
Really the best way to find out is to ask directly, but that can be a little akward. So find out through second-hand information. Try inviting him to a fun event. Get some of your friends together and have them all invite a boy to go on a (casual) date. If he says no, he's probably not interested, but you've still got a backup plan. You can ask the other boy you're interested in if he'll go. Trust me, if they're the kind of boys you would want to be with, they'll say yes.
If none of these ideas sound good to you, you'll need to get the information other ways. If you have classes with any of them, you should try to get in a group activity with him. Pay close attention to the things he says and does. Ask him open-ended (not yes or no) questions so he will talk to you. Try to remember that males aren't always the best conversationalists, so if he's quiet he may still be interested in you.
The last piece of advice I would give you is don't sweat it! There's lots of fish in the ocean, and lots of boys in this world. Just because you are attracted to one initially doesn't mean he's the one for you. Get to know him and see if you still like him. If not, no big deal. Focus on fun activities. Have fun and enjoy getting to know him.
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You can usually tell if someone likes you by the way they act around you. If they like you enough, they will let you know. Maybe drop hints you like them and which ever one acts first, go with it.
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Well... don't feel bad. I haven't had a boyfriend either. Frankly, if your not looking, don't worry. You'll find him; with or without anyones help.
But on the other hand, if your really interested, don't ask these guys straight out. Get to know them first: If you're partnered with them, say in a Biology lab, be friendly, outgoing, start a conversation other than 'What were we doing/starting?'. I have a few guy friends miself, and they've told me that they like it when girls start a conversation. They're probably just nervous, or sommat to the like.
Any way, I hope this answers your question. Or helps at the very least. If not, well, I'm sure you'll think of something.
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There really isn't a way to tell. Have your friends that are his friends ask. Or, you could spy on him yourself.... But, sometimes 'people' can be right. And also sometimes you KNOW if he likes you or not, it's like an instinct. Or compare the way he acts around you with others. If he acts different, he might just like you!
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3 ways:
1) if youre bold, ask him straight out
2) if youre not sure, wait a while and ease it into conversation
3) if youre shy, ignore it till he comes forward.
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I have no good advice at all. Actually, I usually wondered around wonder if they liked me, tried to do things to make a guy like, failed miserably, and then was surprised by someone else completely. Worked okay for me.
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I say give up on them all together.
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Nope.. short of spying or bribing their friends.. :)
To be certain, you have to ask.. but there are a few clues.. Generally, if he pays more attention to you than your peers than that's a good sign.
There is no simple way out i'm afraid. ASK THEM! The worst they can say is NO.
Simon.
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