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My parents are driving me crazy.


Question Posted Thursday October 16 2003, 9:02 pm

I'm 20 years old and I still live with my parents while I'm in school. They are driving me crazy. I want to get out but I can't afford to so I'm stuck in this situation. Anyway, my birthday is coming up and they're throwing this huge party that I don't want. They already sent out the invitations, so I can't get out of it. Is it wrong to fake an illness so I can stay the entire night in my room?

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Here-To-Help answered Thursday November 27 2003, 11:06 am:
Okay, don't fake an illness...I dont (well, hardly, hee hee) even do that and I'm younger than you. You have to sit down and talk to your parents and tell them that you're 20 and you could make your own decisions. Or if you really despise the thought of sitting down and confronting your parents then I'd just go along with it until next year. I know that's a long time but next year will be your 21 birthday and that will be a big one, so just tell them ahead of time that next year (or even tell them at your party this year) that next year you have your own plans (even if you dont because I'm sure you will eventually think of some). I think that they are just afraid of you growing up, and if they didn't invit any of your friends becasue it was justa family party, invite some of your friends and tell them that you want them there because it's your party. Maybe after that party you can go out somewhere with your friends to make the day a little more interesting.
Good Luck.

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timmain answered Wednesday October 22 2003, 10:57 am:
If your parents aren't listening to you, there are some definite communication problems that should probably be addressed before said party.

However, if the invitations are already sent and you aren't in the mood to look like a huge ass completely insensitive to what your parents do for you, I'd suck it up and go. Otherwise, no matter who says what, it's going to look to everyone that it's your fault and you're a horrible ingrate. In the future, make it clear to your parents that you won't be attending anymore of this stuff if they don't clear it with you.

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elmo answered Sunday October 19 2003, 11:40 am:
I don't think it's the best thing to do. What's a few hours out of your life? Your parents are probably only trying to be nice.

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Kira_Valoka answered Friday October 17 2003, 7:09 pm:
Doesnt the college you're at (im assuming youre in college) have dorms that are supplied to people who go to that college? If not, or if youre not in college, youre screwed. I know I'm not supposed to say that, but its true. No, its not wrong to fake ilness, but its not right either. You'll live through it. As long as there arent clowns. Clowns are evil.

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Shywillow answered Thursday October 16 2003, 9:12 pm:
Just suffer through it and rake in all the presents.

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MFS answered Thursday October 16 2003, 9:04 pm:
Umm... I would hope being that you're about to be 21 that you could actually talk to your parents and suggest that perhaps this party is a bad idea.

Being that the invitations are already sent, you missed your chance. Right now, I'd say that since you're living under their roof still, that you should just suck it up and deal with it. And next time, assuming there is one, that you are more able to express yourself to them... they are your family, afterall, and you are basically "all growed up" now.

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