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I'm to shy!
Okay, so i REALLY like this guy. But I don't think he would like me back. I'm in 8th grade and i've never gone on a date or "gone out" with anyone before. If I asked out any guy in the school they'd probably rush me to the hospital or ask me if I was joking. I dunno, maybe i just have low self esteem. But the guy I like is pretty quiet and really smart. Please don't tell me to just go for it, cause if he said no, it would haunt me forever!! (i'm sort of a drama queen. shut up.) So I guess my question is: How can you tell if a guy likes you/would go out with you without actually asking him?
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invite him to a simple group outing. get comfortable with him. then less... then less... then less... then less people in a group. coaze his male instincts out! he is man! hear him grunt! pwahaha! ok... or if you want the easy way, get him drunk and force the truth outta him. ^-^ be careful if you try this.
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I got an e-mail, it's quite true and i think what your looking for...
>*~*Girls*~* [how guyz flirt]
1. He stares at you alot.
. He hits you alot. (just play hitting )
3. He uses the first thing that pops into his head to start a
converstaion with you
4. He yelled, "Hi!", to your mom that day she picked you up from
school.
5. He blew off his buds to go see "Run Away Bride" with you cuz you
couldn't get another girl pal to go and didn't want to go alone.
6. He tries to make you laugh anyway even if he gets hurt in the
process
7. His voice gets softer ("Hey, you") when ever you two talk.
8. You hung up on him. He called you back.
9. You where invited by him to a group outing.
10. He called you to talk about nothing at all.
11. He imitates your laugh. OK, you do snort sometimes. Which makes
you laugh even harder.
12. He remembers little things you mention in casual conversation.
13. He sometimes stares straight into your eyes.
14. He uses every possible way to touch you (your hair, face, butt,
thighs, ect.)
There you go!
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Here is an answer by way of life experience:
I had a crush on a girl in my class in the sixth grade. She was always ahead in the class, but quiet. She was beautiful, but not overly popular. We talked a few times, but I never acted on my crush to ask her out. We did not really see much of each other from seventh grade to first year in high school. We were in a class together again then. We had both changed a lot and I still liked the way she had grown. We had not really talked that much aside from acquaintance level small talk. I was kind of crushing on another girl that year but, there was always something about this one. We all left high school and went about our lives.
Fast-forward twenty years!
I had been online a while and had been a member of a site which keeps track of old school members for about five years. When her name popped up on the list, I could not resist sending her a friendly message. We started emailing each other and I found out she already had been married and had a child. She was divorcing and was presently going through that tough time. She did not let on to that fact right away, we had gotten to know each other again and in a much deeper way that ever! It was really great writing each other because you get to know someone from the inside first. I mean, we already knew how we used to look, so that is not fully like meeting an online stranger. However, we did not know how we looked at our new re-acquaintance. It did not seem to matter. We started getting really close to each other which advanced to exchanging pictures and some phone calls. We really hit it off! We finally saw each other and our first couple of meeting were great! We have really grown to know each other really well.
I think you should not worry about how quickly you get started with your attraction here. If you are compatible, you will be able to work it out over time. Get to be friends and acquaintances and see how it all works out from a strong foundation like that.
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8th grade seems a little young to be honest. I'm sure you're very mature and such, but the truth is that very few relationships start and last for any length of time in middle school. Sorry.
My suggestion is to try and become better friends with him. Get to know him and maybe in a year or two it might be a better time to go after him. When you do, just do it. I know, it's not the answer you want, but it's the only one that really works. Trust me, no one is going to care that much if it doesn't pan out and it probably stands a good chance of doing just that (maybe it's just me, but most guys are pretty accepting and will probably readily go out at least once with a girl that asks them out unless they're some sort of too cool for thier own good Mr. Popularity type). Just be honest and true and treat it like ripping off a band-aid. It might sting a bit, but it'll be over and a lot better than worrying over it.
Still, try to become better friends first. It's been the first step before a relationship for pretty much every single person I know right now.
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Well, what I did was send my friends out when seomthing like this happened to me. My friend made a deal with him that she would tell him who she liked if he told her who he liked. He ended up liking me. But, this plan normally only works if your friend is friends with the guy you like because most guys wouldn't make deals like that with a stranger.
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You should start out slow and build up. Talk to him more and get to know him as a really good friend. Then you can suggests that the two of you try dating. Maybe it can be suggested in a causal way. If he doesn't for some reason, you will have still gained a good friend. After you get to know a person you will probable be able to tell how he thinks/feels and will have a better idea of how he would feel about dating you. I think relationships are best developed instead of jumped into (that's just me). Plus you can have time to see if/how much you like him.
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Try being friends first. If he likes you, it will lead to more. If he doesn't, then you've at least gained a friend. And its not the end of the world to be rejected in the 8th grade, you have all of high school to worry about.
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