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how do i turn him down


Question Posted Thursday October 16 2003, 8:15 pm

there is this guy who just asked me to homecoming. i dont really like him so i said that i would think about it, and fortunately for me a guy i like asked me and i said yes, now i dont know how to tell him that i am going with someone else because he was really expecting to go with me. how should i tell him i am going with someone else?b

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GoddessofNight answered Friday October 17 2003, 9:16 pm:
You just have to tell him. He will be disappointed, and maybe a little angry. But, it will be worse if you said yes to both of them, and had two dates, wouldn't it? And word travels around school fast, he could possibly know already. It would be better for you to tell him, then him find out from the GossipQueen.

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peacegood answered Friday October 17 2003, 9:08 am:
You're just going to have to tell him. It'll be less heartache the sooner you do it for both of you, and then hopefully he'll have a chance to find another date before the dance.

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MissNiceness answered Thursday October 16 2003, 10:38 pm:
Give him the news quickly but nicely. Get right to the point, but then explain that you have other plans. If you are really concerned about his feelings, you could really step out on the limb and try to hook him up with someone else. If he will allow you to do so.

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chocolatenutbar answered Thursday October 16 2003, 9:43 pm:
Just give him the straight up truth: you don't know him all that well, so when another guy you like asked you, you said yes. The truth is the simplest thing.

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downwithhydrogen answered Thursday October 16 2003, 9:30 pm:
You should tell him and not delay it anymore than you have to. This happened to me for my senior prom, except I was on the recieving end. It wasn't particularly fun, but one thing I can tell you for sure is that I have a lot more respect for this guy today because he was honest with me. It was a slightly different situation, but he still had to get the guts up to tell me. It was worth it.

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mycete answered Thursday October 16 2003, 9:06 pm:
There is no good way to tell a guy that you don't like him. No matter how soft you make it, it is still rejection. If you want to be his friend be sure to say that. It will make it a bit softer. I would also tell him as soon as possible so that he can find someone else to go with. If you know him, you could mention to one of your friends that he is available for homecoming.

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Turc answered Thursday October 16 2003, 9:04 pm:
Don't lie to him, because if he finds out you were lying it would only hurt him worse. Instead, tell him you're sorry, but you're going with someone else. That way, you aren't making an excuse- you ARE going with someone else; and he'll just be upset some other guy "cut to the chase" quicker than he did. Just be straightforward and honest about it, don't beat around the bush.

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Shywillow answered Thursday October 16 2003, 8:38 pm:
How about being honest with him? Not brutally honest, just enough to get the hint.

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snarfism answered Thursday October 16 2003, 8:28 pm:
You should probably tell him you are are really sorry but you only see him as a friend. Don't lie, it will only end in anger and embarassment.

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