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My best friend has been consumed by a totally worthless boyf
My best friend has been consumed by a totally worthless boyfriend. He's a jerk who demands all her time; she was so much cooler before he came along! How can I get her back?
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Let your friend see, in some way, that he is a total jerk. You can drop hints here and there, saying stuff like how controlling he is, how needy he is, how big a jerk he is, etc. But don't EVER go straight up to her and make her choose between you and him. If it gets mroe serious, tell her some reasons you don't like him and why he's worthless, and let her decide for herself. Hopefully, she will see he is a no-good jerk, and all will be right with the world.
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I feel for you, I really do. I've been in this situation before. But there's not a lot you can do, if you kill him you'll get arrested, and if you yell and scream at her ("STOP BEING A MORON!") she'll just tunnel in and turn it into a you vs. him situation. Very bad. So I think the best way to get your feelings across would be to write her a long letter explaining exactly why you don't like her new man and telling her she could do better and you don't like how she's changed since he showed up. Letters are nice because she'll have to see everything you say and you have time to think about what you want to say so you won't say the wrong thing. If she still doesn't see things your way, you might have to call this one a loss and get a new best friend. Be there for her when the jerk leaves her in the dirt, but until then you don't need this stress in your life, you tried. She needs to find strength in herself. You can't give it, no matter how much you want to. If she's being physically abused or threatened, you can go to a school councellor or parent for help, otherwise, good luck.
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