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dealing with a lost pet
I recently just lost a pet. Well, actually my cat, Precious, was an outdoor cat. She'd come in and out of the house frequently, but was always home in time for bed.
One day we let her out, and by bed time she didn't come back. Okay, she's been out during the night, no big prob. But, she never returned.
My cat and I were very close. I'm having a hard time dealing with this, and I find myself calling out her name. It doesn't matter if I'm working, or thinking about something else, I'll just start randomly calling out for her.
And my job as a cashier with a grocery store hasn't been much help either. Just seeing and selling cat food makes me all that depressed. And cats I see when I'm outside drive me to tears.
I don't know how to deal! She's been gone for about three months now! How can I deal?
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Your story has brought me to tears. A year ago I lost my baby, T.C. (top cat). I've never had a cat run away or something, but I imagine it would feel like this empty hope that she would come back one day....I guess I'm not helping too much. After I lost T.C. I cried so much. BUT...I did have my other baby cat to get me through it. I agree with the others. You should adopt another cat and it might help ease the pain of your loss. It's completely normal and healthy to grieve but don't lose yourself.
I hope I helped!
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I think you need to get new cat. When my moms dog died she got a new one right away so she wouldnt have to deal with the crying. I think your sad because you have nothing to come home to anymore. You should get something to love so you dont feel very depressed.
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There is no right way to "deal" with it. Calling out her name is normal for the hope of her being out there somewhere. Even when you know that they have gone you will find yourself sometimes calling out their name at times. Maybe she knew she was dying and left trying to spare up the pain of seeing her go. Animals try the best they can to distance them selfs from you when they are about to go.
And maybe the only thing that will help you now is getting another kitty. I can tell you really like cats so maybe another cat (maybe from the pound) might help. There are cats out there that need your help, that have never felt the love the Precious had.
It's only been three months. You just have to give yourself more time. Sooner or later you will feel better, you will still mish her, but the pain will seem more distant and you and your new kitty can enjoy all the wonderful games you and Precious used to play.
I hope things go ok with you. And if I could I would bring her back to you. My best wishes. . . .
*Toby*
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I am very sorry about Precious. First of all, I think that its the hope thats hurting you the most. Second, you have to remember that Precious is, in fact, gone. She is in a better place now. Remember all the happy timew you have been with her and in time you will be ready for a new cat.
Cait52291
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Most people don't realize that pets are family members, too, and losing one can be just as painful as if you lost a brother or sister.
The best way to handle this is to take it one day at a time. Remember, you've lost someone that you care about deeply. Let yourself think of her, and talk to her if you need to. After they lose family members, most people still talk to them, if only in their minds.
Also, spend time with your family and friends, who can be wonderful support pillars during this difficult time. Grieve as you need to, and when the time is right, you'll feel better again.
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There's no magic way to just "deal" with loss, it takes time and you can't avoid it. Don't try to push it out of your head, let yourself think of her whenever you feel like it.
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