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Note writing
If you're too shy to ask someone out in person is it creepy to write them a note?
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Not at all! I've done the exact same thing. Well, I found out he liked me and I didn't know if it was just a rumor or something...so i found out what his locker number was and wrote him a note, adn eventually he wrote back. But don't get too many people involved, becasue it cuold really ruin it. All of his friends were involved which I didnt care, but all of my friends were involved too and he said in his note that he felt awkward having all my friends crowding around his and my business. And the thing was, he was shy too, and I am majorly shy. Personally, it was the easiest thing I've done regarding a boy.
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haha... i did that in second grade. watch out. they can get scared and even... BUM BUM BUM!!! show their friend! *scream echoes through the air* you want no proof. talk in person or through another person. but a note is a no-no.
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Depends on your age, if your high school age I'd say so... notes are an indirect way of expressing yourself, and your feelings, but not directly feeling rejection, should that come to play, so its only natural you would find comfort in them, and want to use them as a way to emotionally protect yourself. People fear rejection, its one of our top fears aside from public speaking. You need to however strive to overcome this fear. I know its hard but in the end you'll find it’s more rewarding, or in your case you very well may find the person in question had the same fear. I myself have directly met that fear, face, to face. I've been rejected too, but if you let that stop you then you will have a lot of regrets... there are things you can do to perhaps stir this other to ask you out, like flirt, talk to him or her, let them know your free this weekend, things like that, however nothing guarantees results like taking initiative yourself. Give yourself lots of mental pep talks, practice what you would say, even though you probably wont say it that way. All those things can boost your confidence! Good luck!
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Well, I so far haven't had good experiences with notes-I've been turned down every time. It is a bit awkward to give someone a note, but I suggest that you talk to this person and tell them yourself. Drop hints first, and if you think that he/she likes you as well, go for it. I don't recommend the note unless you're sure that this person likes you though, because it seems to be the case that a lot of people are less responsive to notes. Is it creepy? No. It's just a lot less personal, and therefor you are less likely to get the response you want.
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I tend to agree w/ ev'one else that in person is better. HOWever, I have a story that works a bit to the contrary.
In college, I met a gal. She told me where she worked. I wanted to ask her out, but didn't have her phone number and didn't have any classes with her. So, I went to her work. She was busy (not generally a good idea to sit around chatting while someone's working in a public setting), so I wrote a note asking if she'd like to go out (don't remember what the occasion was). She was excited about it. So yah, it worked for me, but that was a specific work-related circumstance. Otherwise, I don't know that I'd pursue the note-writing bit.
BTW- That gal was my g'friend for 3 months (until she moved across the state :( She asked me to move with her, but hey- that's another story for another time ;)
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If you are too shy to ask someone out in person maybe you shouldn't ask them out. If he says yes you are going to have to talk to him IN PERSON. Start out with a conversation. Once you get more comfortable around him/her ask him.
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If you are really shy, and you really want to go out with them, it's all right i guess. But what wouldb e your reaction if someone put a note in your locker asking you out? How would you feel? Like you were being tricked, right? You should wait until you think you are ready to ask them out in person. Then you will definetly be ready for a boyfriend/grilfriend relationshio.
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I don't think so. This should be fine, most people don't like being confronted in person. (I know I don't! Even if it's someone I really like.)
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In my experience, talking face-to-face is always a much better form of communication than a letter. Letters can be read over and over, analyzed, and misanalyzed. That and they're much more impersonal. Sometimes they're just fine, but certain things should be done in person. Among these are a) asking someone out b) 'fessing up and apologizing c) conflict management, and d) I don't really have a fourth one, but the answer wanted an option d.
You can write him a note saying you wish to talk to him, but I reccommend against asking him out in a note.
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How well do you know them? Is it speaking to them that you're embarrassed about or asking them out. if you're too shy to talk to them then there wouldn't be much point in dating would there?
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not creepy no...but it's always better to start things off a bit more personal than a letter. my suggestion is to try to ask in person...maybe over the phone, that would be better than a letter. and remember there isn't any reason to feel like you have to ask NOW! if you're shy then ease your way into it...ya know?
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If the person is well worth it then you should be able to muster up the courage to ask them yourself, besides - letters are so impersonal.
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Depends. Sometimes people really respect shy people who get up the courage to ask someone out in person. You can always try over the phone or the internet, which are more like being there in person than a note and yet still easier than asking someone out in person.
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IMO, it's much better to ask someone out in person or over the phone than to do it in a note or email format. It shows you've got guts enough to want to be with them, although it does suck if you're rejected. However, if they don't like you back, they could take the note and wave it around to all of their friends and make a joke out of your feelings (which would prove they weren't worth it anyway but that's besides the point). I'm just saying that if it were me I would stay away from the note writing.
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if youre 11, no. if youre older than 14, yes.
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