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Stupid, stupid, stupid.
I've gone out with this kid twice and both times the reason for the break up was we were basically sick of each other. Unfortunately, we both keep bouncing back to each other. Consequently I'm pretty obsessed with this one kid.
Recently, however, he's taken to generally ignoring me when I'm around. This hurts me, not because I like him per se at the moment, but because I miss our friendship like whoa. I say hi to him whenever I see him and everything, but I don't want to call him (the chase and all that jazz). But I miss him so much. I've let too many friendships die this way. Advice?
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If I were you, I would try talking to him and telling him that you miss his friendship. Don't lay blame on him or anything, keep it simple and brief, but don't let him believe that you like him romantically, that would be leading him on, and it may give him false hope of you liking him again.
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If he's ignoring you, then he's not worth your time. Perhaps he is a decent person if you miss the times you had together, but if he's ignoring you, then he's very immature, and at this stage in your life where every little thing that happens is a major hit to your self-esteem, it's best to let it go.
Believe in yourself.
If you can do that one thing, you won't *need* him. You won't feel that Life is going to end if you're not with someone. You'll find that you will have a lot of Good friends, as people love to be around others that are confident in themselves. Honestly, we all have issues about self-confidence. If we find someone that seems to have that problem under control, I think most people gravitate to that sort of behavior. We want to be confident, too!
So you're wondering what this has to do w/ your guy. It has everything to do with it. And if you can get past thinking that you *need* to be with someone (which you didn't say, but seems apparent to me), you'll be fine and let go of this minor fixation.
You'd definitely be better w/o someone that's willing to ignore you rather than be a friend. But hey- that's just my 1/2 cent worth.
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You definitly don't need him if he's ignoring you. He clearly doesn't have the maturity to date, and no offense, but neither do you. I sure as hell know I'm not mature enough. Most people aren't, infact.
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Try and just be friends with him. Things aren't going to go back to normal right away, these things take time and he probably thinks you hate him or something right now. Try to ignore the feelings of wanting to date him and just try to slowly restore friendship. I did the same thing with one of my ex-boyfriends, and for a whole year we hated each other. Finally his attempts to reach me on a friend level succeeded and now he's one of my best friends. These things take time, but don't give up.
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