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relationship question
I have been going out with this boy on and off since january 11th 2003 and we have broken up 5 times .Each time I dumped him but we always got back together within like a week. At first he was obssessed with me but somehow it all changed and i became obssessed with him . Recently he has been changing and ignoring me and finally he dumped me for the first time and really hurt me because I felt like I was madly in love with him and would marry him. I thought he felt the same way but he said that lately it felt like I was more of a friend to him then a girlfriend. Now during our whole relationship he has also on and off liked his first girlfriend and went out with her for two days before dumping her one time when we had broken up. So after Iam starting to kinda get over him and thinking of the good things of why were over (like no more heartbreaks) he calls me up and says hes completley over his first girlfriend and hints he wants to go back out with me but im not sure i should i mean i still like him but will i just be going back to the old heartbreak ? Our relationship has been down hill ever since he realized he still liked his old girlfriend. To make matters worse my best friend said she wont be my friend anymore if we get back together because my boyfriend said he is just going to keep dumping me for his 1st girlfreind and then getting back together with me and she can't stand seeing me hurt.To get back together or not? What is your advice?
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that bastard! get rid of him! out the door he goes! get the broom! he's obviously not taking relationships seriously if he does this kinda stuff. i think your best friend is right. listen to her. there's a reason why she's your best friend.
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Not... This feeling of obsession you describe is commonly known as infatuation, you don't really love him, like true love, you are pretty much blindly obsessed with him which is pretty normal for everyone. His infatuation for seems to have worn off. His behavior suggests he is indecisive in what he wants, he’s not sure if he wants a girlfriend, wants you as that girlfriend, or if he really cares about you, it sounds like he not yet figured out what he wants, let alone being able to work and maintain a relationship. I can guarantee that continuing to pursue this relationship will simply lead to more heartache, and confuse you more to. You are starting to heal, why tear yourself open again. Your friend has a point, but her threat to you is pretty silly. If I were you I would look elsewhere. You can find more satisfaction, and feel better if you can get into either, a more stable relationship, or even adjust back to the single life. His wishy washy attitude is not worth your heartach, save yourself the pain.
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High school drama sucks. My advice would be to get over this guy-he is obviously a jerk. Wait for a nicer guy to come along, and i'd advise that if this guy comes begging back to you after you get over him-don't take the bait. this kind of guy does not change.
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Honestly, I don't think you should get back together. One of my friends broke up with the same person over 27 times before she finally called it quits with him. You just need to forget about him and find someone else. It's best not to dwell on him, because your friend's right, you'll only get your heart broken again. I know it's not fun to have your heart broken, so before you find someone else, just spend some time being single. You may be surprised to remember how much fun it can be!
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Dear, I hate to tell you, but you gotta let him go. It's going to cause nothing but heartbreak for you, and he's just using you as that "girl inbetween".
You're better than that.
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Don't get back with him. You two have already broken up several times, and one of those times, he broke up with you for some other girl. And like you said, you were starting to get over him. You can get on with out him, and didn't he also say that you were more like a friend to him? Just tell him that you're no longer interested. I'm sure that if you give it time, he'll get over you, you'll totally get over him, and maybe the two of you can still be friends.
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