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Move in with the boyfriend?
I'm 22, almost finished with college, and currently living with my parents. I desparately want to move out of my house, and I would like to live with my boyfriend, but I am vacillating between both sides. I don't know if I should just go ahead and get a place with him, or stay at home until I graduate (with all my bills and tuition paid, therefore no financial stress on me).
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The answer to this riddle all depends on where you want to end up later in life.
If you stay living at home with no costs you may actually have a chance at financial freedom by the time you are 73 years old. This, however, depends on your career choice. Did you major in some meaningless subject like mathematics? What the hell does a mathematician do anyways? I guess mathematicians probably work government jobs which means you won’t have to work your fingers to the bone until you’re 73, might be 54 or 55 when you retire. If that is the case well bravo!
On the other hand moving in with your boyfriend can be rewarding as well. You will be free from your mommy and daddy telling you what you can and can’t do. How old did you say you are?
However, within a year you could be pregnant with your bastard boyfriend’s bastard baby as he decides he isn’t ready to settle down and takes off with your best friend the stripper. Well that will teach you a lesson for having a stripper as your best friend, but I guess they need friends too.
Unable to support yourself and afraid go back to mommy and daddy since they told you this would happen, you yourself decide to enter the dancing profession. You then find yourself addicted to meth and homeless in the mean streets of Dubuque. “Is this hell” you ask the local gas station clerk, and the clerk responds, “No, it’s Iowa”.
Bottom line here is to continue free-loading off of mommy and daddy until they ask you to leave. I don’t care if you are 30 and have a little paper route for your fun money, as long as they are willing to fork over the cash to keep you safe and sound, take the deal.
Tell that bum boyfriend of yours if he wants you to move in he better get a damn good job, a big ass house, and the biggest diamond ring west of the Mississippi. In the words of Beyoncé put a ring on it!
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It really depends on a lot of other issues that you haven't brought up.
Personally I'm 22, in my last year of college, and have been living with my girlfriend of three years since the beginning of the year. We both lived in the dorms before this and were essentially living together for the past two years. After the dorms changed some policies and I found I wouldn't get the kind of room I desired we decided to move in together. Since we go to school a decent distance from home we really don't have any option to live there. Finances are totally covered by our parents for the same rate as we got in the dorms.
Really this is a good situation for us. Your will depend on various criteria:
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<li>How long have you been dating? Do you think this be too large a step?</li>
<li>Why do you want to move out? Freedom? Just tired of your parents? Want to experience living on your own?</li>
<li>What's the financial situation? Are you working? Is he? Are you both in school? If so for how long will he be in school? How is school being paid for?</li>
<li>How does he feel about this?</li>
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Basically if you think you can afford to get your own place without taking two jobs each, won't be moving too fast in the relationship, and think it's the right thing to do then do it. Give it some time though and think it over.
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The financial stress will definatly get you in the end, and may even cause problems between you and your boyfriend. You should probably sit tight at home till everything is cleared up on that end. The upside is that it gives you more time to think if you and your bf should movie in together or not.
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i guess it all depends on how badly you want out of that house and how long it would be until you get your own place if you dont. if your boyfriend is financially stable on his own, maybe you could move in with him making sure he understands that youre not quite stable yet and the both of you can do what you can.
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It seems that while you are living with your parents you have the best of most worlds. You have no money problems,you don't have to organise laundry or food shopping, you get to see your boyfriend-you've got it made!
Why do you say that you 'desperately want to move out of (your) house'? Is it because of lack of freedom, being away from your boyfriend, what?
Where does your boyfriend live? If he lives somewhere where it is conceivable that you could stay with him for a while as a trial run then it would probably be a good idea to do so. That way you'd get a chance to experience being with him 24/7 and to experience financial independance.
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First of all, I would like to commend you for using the word "vacillate".
Secondly, if I were you, I would opt for the setting with no financial stress. In my opinion, it would be much easier to handle if you weren't dependent on anyone, and if you have any spats with your boyfriend you won't have to deal with him 24/7. Of course, if you plan on being together in the long run, you'd have to put up with him all the time anyway, so that wouldn't really matter. That's when you resolve your differences.
Anyway, I'm getting off track. If the situation with your parents at home is that bad, move in with your boyfriend. Or, if you can handle it, try to find a small, nice place of your own.
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