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meeting on the internet
I met a guy in a chat room....We have a lot in common and a lot of the same interests. I am 15 and he is 37...he looks way younger. I have been hanging out with him after school and at the mall. I want to date him. I am very attracted to him and he is SO nice and sweet to me. He takes me to lunch, etc. Should I get involved with him even though we have a huge age difference? I don't think it makes a difference.
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wow! i wouldnt even begin to get started in that direction! walk away! in fact.. barrel your bootay out of that direction! you are waaay to young for a old guy like that.. c'mon he is probably around your rents age and almsot over the hill ICK! thats a huge age difference there. stay away. Older guys may fool you too! be careful!!
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No way...I'm sorry but...girl thats two years older than just turning a teenager. That is way too young. I could understand if you were an adult. That's illegal. He obviously doesn't care for you as much as you thought he did if he's not worried about what your parents would think. And don't you think it's a bit odd that you haven't told your parents yet. If your afraid to tell people than what's the point of going out with this guy...obviously you know somethings wrong about this if you haven't told your parents yet. And even though you havent said that you didnt tell your parents...I could still tell because you didnt mention that it was a problem with them. Have you heard about the people, especially young girls that get abducted all the time from internet searches? Seriously, you better let someone know knwo before it leads to major problems...and trust me, theres a god chance it will. Just becasue he takes you to lunch doesnt mean anything. Really, ditch the guy and help yourself.
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damn.... he's only a few years short of being your DAD'S age!!! get a grip. would this work out? if you married him, would you want to be a widow earlier than anyone else??? love can stand age, but sometimes it cannot withstand time.
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No! He may seem as though he is very nice and sweet, but what if he is just beig to nice to you to get permission to do something more sexual?Don't waste your time with him.
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No, no no! Definitely not! Not only is there too big of an age difference, but it could be dangerous for you, and you could also get him in serious trouble! What's more, what are you doing with someone you met in a chatroom? That could have been equally dangerous for you. It's fine if you want to just stay friends, but please don't get involved. It worries me that you would even think of it.
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I'm generally all for any relationships with extreme age differences. Whatever floats ev'one's boats.
HOWEVER, you are 15. That part of the equation throws my belief right out the window. I agree w/ ev'one else. Run, do not walk, away from this. Most likely, you will disregard ev'one's advice because he's a "Nice Guy," but don't say you weren't warned.
He may be nice, but you have to look at the reasoning he's got going- what's a 37 yr old looking for in a 15 yr old? The experiences alone would drive most people apart rather immediately, I would think. So if he's perfectly capable of being happy with what you can offer experience-wise, it just makes me wonder what's wrong w/ him.
I'm not putting you down. Rather, putting things in a perspective that you cannot see yet. In time,you will understand the viewpoints that the people here are sharing. You might not see them for the truths that they harbor right now, though. But I assure you, no one is trying to do you harm by telling you to stay away from him. The opposite is true. We might not know you, but no one here wants to see someone get into a possibly dangerous situation (one that's already borderline illegal and definitely morally lacking).
If you were around 20 years old, I'd tell you to go for it. But 15? Not a chance in the world, chief.
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I'll be blunt:
GOOD GOD NO! WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU THINKING?
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You should tell a parent and go to the police. There could be records on this guy. Don't jump the gun to much, though. For all you know he's a perfectly nice guy.
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Not only do you need to stay away from this guy you need to tell your parents or an adult you trust (your school principal, guidance counselor or a teacher or coach you can relate to.
What this man is doing is dangerous and illegal. You're lucky you haven't gotten involved with him too deeply. The next girl might not be so lucky.
Get away and tell someone as soon as possible.
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WOAH... that's just plain odd. Legally, I don't even think you can get married or even date. You certainly can't do anything, if you catch my drift. You met him in a chat room. He could be putting up an act so he can get you alone and you know... rape you. It sounds really dangerous to me. Most older men don't look to a high schooler for romance.
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It't not a wise idea to get involved, because he might be looking for more of a "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" kinda deal (although he may not say so). Not to mention it is VERY illegal, and your parents would more or likely flip shit. Having a secret relationship really sucks anyways.
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WHOAH. Hun, chances are if you are 15 and he's 37, he's not exactly looking for the kind of relationship you want. He could be the nicest person in the world, but you probably don't have that much in common and the maturity levels are different. He could be your father. I would stay faaarrrrr, far away from him. Nothing wrong with being friends, but I'm almost positive that a relationship with that much older of a man is wrong.
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negative. a 22 year age difference may not make a difference when youre 30 and 52, but when its 15 and 37... come on. thats like middle-of-high-school and midlife-crisis. i'm sorry, but you just have to ask yourself whats wrong with a 37 year old man who is attracted to a 15 year old girl. could turn out to be bad.
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37? I hate to tell you this, but there is no healthy reason for a 37 year old to be interested in a 15 year old. Do NOT get involved. In fact, RUN.
Hanging out with people your own age is what's healthy.
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