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Do I tell my husband I am using birth control?
Posted Tuesday February 13 2024, 5:07 pm
Me = 23F
Husband = 26F
We have been married for 1 year, dating for 3 years. The whole time my husband and his family and my parents have been very open about wanting us to have kids. I have gone along with that and kept to myself fact I do not actually want to have kids. I did not want to disappoint him and or everyone else so I just kept using birth control after the wedding and during this whole time we supposedly have been trying to have a baby. I have used sex to distract him and keep him feeling like we are making the effort. I pretended to get myself checked when we were not conceiving and he had his doctor do a sperm count test and he is fine. I feel rotten I made him doubt himself. His older brothers are...
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My niece moved in with us.
Posted Sunday January 7 2024, 10:04 am
So my 22 year old niece moved in with my mom and i because she is going through a divorce and she brought her dog. I live her and the dog , but she and the dog is getting on my nerves. I am 34 years old and I live with my mom because I have an anxiety disorder, autism, and sensory processing disorder. My mom is disabled. My mom uses a walker if that helps any. My niece works with home health and she is supposed to be helping my mom do things she can't do that was the agreement when she moved in. Instead of paying rent and helping with groceries she would cook and clean and take me places with our car when my mom is unable to do so . The thing is we share a room and she keeps it a mess she was going through our food to see what was good a no...
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How can I cope with my mother's words?
Posted Tuesday November 14 2023, 10:18 am
Long story short, that tiktok that says "your mother loves you but she doesn't like you" describes it well. She does so much for me, she loves me but her words are so venomous if I do something wrong. I am a young adult, I don't drink, smoke or do any of that. I mind my own business and don't get in trouble. I focus on my studies. But throughout my life, she has said things that have struck me and haunted me, comments about my looks, and intellect. She knows I will never be like her, she was practically THE girl and I'm just a girl. I want her to accept me and like me. I want her to listen to me and not just understand whatever based on the image she has of me. She lies and says she doesn't care if I end up being a disappointment ...
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confused
Posted Friday September 1 2023, 5:33 pm
Hi there why wouldnt my sister make her children (15) and (12) say they are sorry for breaking into my house. Im not really all they mad about it but my boyfriend is and they have to respect that he lives here as well.
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not allowed to see grandchild or even talk
Posted Sunday June 25 2023, 12:01 pm
Im at my wits end, nobody seems to care. Its been 6 years , my daughter got in a fight with my son, has not allowed me to see my grandson, who I love dearly because I told her it was wrong to assult my son. She blocked me in every way. Now I'm sure my grandson probably doesnt even remember me, he was 3 . Its has devastated me . I've tried I've begged my family to help , I sent cards, gifts texts unreturned, calls ignored. ITS KILLING ME.She has never been kind or good to me, never said I love you or even called me mom. Do I give up, do I hire an attorney, do I show up and try to talk to her at her job? I don't know her address she has moved, now getting a divorce. Im afaraid I will never see them again.
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Very indecisive!
Posted Wednesday April 12 2023, 5:48 am
Hello,
So to keep it short, my sister passed away a few months ago at the start of the year and it has been devastating to say the least. My wedding is in the summer and it is a few months away. At first I wanted to postpone it a year, however, because of my family's circumstances and us always being abroad and away from one another, we decided it would just be best to have a small "reception" instead of a big wedding sometime in the summer so that me and my soon to be husband can live together since we have been waiting for that for a while.
It was a very hard decision for me to make as me and my family are grieving and we are such a close and big family. The thing is, I am okay with my decision be...
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Wedding and death of my brother.
Posted Tuesday February 7 2023, 7:09 pm
Hi everyone,
I hope whoever is reading this has the patience and understanding that I am looking for, it makes me a little uncomfortable to write here and look for advice from strangers, but I need to vent to people who might not be judgmental to my given situation.
Me and my Fiancé have been engaged for two years, we are both 29 years old and were supposed to get married in the summer, next June. My brother lives in the U.S and both me and my Fiance are live in a different country.
My two sisters, who live with him in the U.S, called me about a month ago saying he has passed away in his sleep. Of course, this was such a big shock to everyone and even to my Fiance, because he was his good friend even...
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In-Laws Want Money
Posted Saturday December 10 2022, 9:30 pm
Hello. I live in the U.S. with my bf. We're both in our 20s. He has a decent paying job, but we're definitely not rich and rent is very expensive where we live. The problem is that my bf's parents live in a third-world country and they expect him to send money home every week. We used to do it, but we recently had a baby and money is very tight now. We haven't sent them money in a few weeks, and his mother is really angry about this. We decided that I would stop working for a year or so to take care of the baby, but now his mother says I'm the reason why he can't send money anymore. She is really upset and she's blaming me for everything. Also, the other day his sister made a comment saying that my bf shouldn't spend all his money on me bec...
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Should my 15 year old daughter visit her mom who will be in jail
Posted Sunday October 30 2022, 2:28 am
The charge is a check fraud charge and it is a six month sentence. My daughter she seems to be handling it fine. I told her right away about it and she reacted pretty calmly. I told her mom did the wrong thing and is rightfully serving her punishment. They have a good relationship. The main problem I have is she will see her mom in a jail jumpsuit and see guards and other inmates that could be intimidating. Is that ok for a 15 year old to see? Actually my daughter does not seem scared but instead seems excited and enthusiastic to visit. This is strange to me. Do you find this normal? My daughter seems to find the idea of her mom having to wearing a uniform, sharing a room funny.
Interestingly I talked to a guard and t...
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Ridiculously overprotective parents?
Posted Monday October 17 2022, 7:17 pm
I posted something along the lines before but it’s really getting frustrating the way they’re treating me now. I’m 19M in UK but my parents never let me go anywhere by myself- I always have to tag another family member along; maybe they think because I’m autistic, I need more support? But in actuality, with me being autistic, I prefer my own company. I have a hobby of just going to see TV shows being recorded but all the time I have to have another person along with me; who may find whichever show’s in question boring. As well as that, I quite like exploring the surrounding area which is pretty hard to do when you have another person joined at your hip. Also, I can’t drive (I’m dyspraxic so struggle with coordination) so usual...
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How to deal with overprotective parents (part 2)
Posted Thursday August 18 2022, 11:28 am
Hi, I posted a question here the other day (when I was logged out, had to log in to post link to it)- http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=667731
and this question was about my overprotective parents. I spoke to them about the job thing and they were more understanding but still want me to see a career advisor before applying for that first job- they're treating me as if I'm a little child, I'm 19 for goodness sake, I'm an adult (even if just about).
But it's not the job thing that's annoying me the most currently- it's the fact that I feel I need their permission to go anywhere; surely, at my age, I should be free to go to where I want without needing to ask/inform anyone about it- they should only be conc...
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How to deal with overprotective parents?
Posted Saturday August 13 2022, 8:01 am
I posted on here before with a question ‘I think my mother is holding me back from getting a job’ but the problem has seemingly gotten worse. It’s both parents now being overprotective of me.
So now I’m asking how to deal with overprotective parents?
My parents seemingly don’t want me to get a job, despite me really wanting one. I’m 18M, (19M in a few days) and a college student in the UK; and am autistic (that will become relevant once I explain the situation).
I’m currently seeking my first job- I’d like to have a job in the media industry (where a runner role is typically the default entry level position- runners being the people who run little errands for the more senior produ...
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How do I recover
Posted Friday July 29 2022, 8:50 am
Few month’s back I was scammed by a fake Broker, He took all my life savings that got me depressed. I felt like my World was crumbling, until I met someone online that told me about txmtech.org , Even though I was skeptical at first due to so many fake online Scammers, but I felt comfortable when I was told by a Specialist that I don’t need to pay a dime till after the recovery process and have my funds returned back to me. I finally gave them a trial and luckily, in less than 2 weeks I had 80% of what I lost back into my wallet and the scammers punished. You can give them a trial maybe you will also come out Happy like me
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Telling parents about mental health
Posted Sunday July 10 2022, 3:47 am
I'm a 20 year old female. Should I tell my parents about what's been going on with my mental health? Trigger warning engaged: I've been noticing that it's gotten bad and it's gotten to the point where I hurt myself, but I'm not cutting or burning my skin. I feel like I should tell my parents. But I don't want to add more to their plates, especially since my mom has a surgery coming up. I kinda don't want to tell my dad cause he's kinda partially to blame because he's kinda a narcissist and I never feel like I'm good enough for him. A part of me doesn't want to tell my parents because they have said that if I show signs of self-harm, they were going to send me to the hospital. What should I do?
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Awkward talk with younger sis
Posted Saturday July 2 2022, 2:12 am
Hello! I am 14 (f) and my little sister is 12. Recently i walked into her room and saw her abruptly do something on her phone and when I asked why she was acting weird she said she was just watching a t.v show. I did a little snooping and found that she was searching "hard wattpad smut" on tiktok. It's very damaging to see that stuff at such a young age (even at my age) i want to talk to her about it but i don't know where to begin or if talking to her is even a good idea at all. I don't want to tell my parents as i feel it would harm her trust in me/they would handle it insensitively. Also she knows that im am bisexual and she has kept that secret from my parents so i feel that if i tell on her she will spill my true sexuality. what should i do?? Please help!
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Heavy Office and Sister Advice Needed
Posted Tuesday June 14 2022, 4:37 pm
This will consist of me venting while also seeking guidance or advice of any kind just please help me! A few weeks ago my sister saw my male manager and decided that she found him attractive. He told me that he thought she was cute also, since then I saw that she was becoming attached to the validation that he offered so I tried to prevent those two from crossing paths as much as possible. I’ve been praying profusely to god that these two can never see each other to prevent them one from trying to get romantically involved, Last Thursday was an exception and my current nightmare became true she got saw a window of opportunity and asked for his number. Of course he complied, since then it’s been stress and thinking/expecting only the wor...
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I feel like my mother is holding me back from getting a job
Posted Tuesday May 31 2022, 10:31 pm
I feel like my mother is holding me back from getting a job
First things first, I know she’s just looking out for me but I feel like she’s babying me. For context I have autism and a couple of other medical conditions. I’m currently studying media production in the United Kingdom and am searching for jobs in the TV industry (trying to juggle a job with college so that once I am done with college in 2023, I’ll still have something I’ll be doing) which is proving difficult but I’m going to work as hard as I can to try and get there- but my mum doesn’t seem to think any of these jobs are a good fit (as I’m very much an introvert) and just nitpicks them and nitpicks my ambitions or says I can’t juggle both.
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Should my brother visit my dad who left us?
Posted Monday May 30 2022, 3:15 pm
Some background information:
- my dad cheated on my mom and left us to live with his mistress
- my brother has a mental and physical disability
- my brother has severe trauma from all the fighting my parents did and his psychologist told me he trusts me the most
- my brother visits my dad every sunday and always comes home crying.
- last sunday my brother told me he did not want to see my dad anymore if I did not go with him because he only feels safe when i am with him
- a month ago my dad attacked my mom and got thrown into prison for a week (I was not home during this, I was at my dorm in another city)
Last week my brother told me he did not want to see our father if I did not c...
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Cutting off family
Posted Monday April 18 2022, 7:46 pm
Most of my family never wants me to have a kid.They dont do this with other family members and im not overly young,being in my mid 20's.The've told me that i'm not smart enough to raise a child and that reproducing would be cruel.Am I in the wrong for wanting to cut them out of my life for this? I've always wanted a family and it deeply pains me that they disapprove of the idea so much.
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I want to change my name!
Posted Sunday April 17 2022, 10:37 pm
I am a 33 year old female and my step-dad is the only dad I have ever known because my mom and divorced when I was 3 and died when I was at the age of 12. My step dad has been in my life since I was 5 and he is the one one who has really been there . The thing is I don't know if this is possible at the age of 33 . We didn't do it when ias little because we didn't want to hurt my dad's and Granny's my dad's mom feelings? I get surviors benefits off my dad would that stop if I changed my name ? I get regular disability would I have to start all over if I changed my name?
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