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Should I give up?


Posted Monday March 25 2024, 11:45 am

I’ve been with my boyfriend almost 3 years. He just turned 38 and I am 32. He knows I want a partner and a family. We had fun traveling quite a bit because we are both adventurous and he has not had a stable place (rent or own) for like 4 years now. Since before we were together he’s been a nomad.

I left my place 2 years ago because my work contract was ending and we’ve been “nomadic” ever since going to different places. I work remote too right now. But I want to settle down, I’m not asking him for marriage even just yet but I want to be in one place with him. He says we can’t get married until we’ve lived together, which makes some sense.

But he’s not willing to move in together because he ...

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Tired of being put in the corner


Posted Thursday March 14 2024, 9:36 pm

I've been married what would have been 18 years but he pushed me to the side for his computer, his cell phone and his job. We have 3 amazing kids together but I didn't wanna be alone anymore.

Now I'm seeing someone I've been with over 4 years and we both had good jobs, but we were being treated unfairly and being overlooked for any type of promotions. Anyways, I feel like all I do is cook, clean, work my 40 hours and try to be with my kids as much as I can. But now he makes me feel like a piece of trash. Now he's claiming I'm making him feel like he's walking on egg shells, when I'm tired of being treated like I'm not good enough for any man. I'm close to just leaving him and hanging it all up. I don't know, any advice would help me so very much.

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Boyfriend keeps pushing me to do things I don't want to do


Posted Sunday February 18 2024, 9:36 am

Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year now. He knows I have diagnosed anxiety and I struggle to do things out of my comfort zone. Lately he's been hard pushing me to get over my fears, and while I know he's trying to help, he's doing it in a way that is starting to really upset me. I'm pretty uncomfortable around his parents and he likes to push me to interact with them more. I don't mind that, but he wants me to be alone with them. Today right before he left for work he told me to do and help his mom with her cookbook. I asked if she knew I was coming and he said no, to just knock on her houses front door and ask to help. When I said that makes me uncomfortable he just told me he'll be very disappointed in me if I didn't g...

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How to forgive yourself


Posted Sunday February 4 2024, 1:20 am

I am a 34 year old female and I have been in a loving relationship with my good hearted boyfriend of 7 years and we intend to marry too. However, last year I met a guy when I was having some problems with my boyfriend who lived in a different city. I met this new guy 3-4 times and ended up talking a lot. We had many similarities and I think we sort of had a good and caring friendship and we resonated. We also shared a lot of secrets about our lives. However, I started having some intense feelings for him which I also told my boyfriend. There was clearly and mental and physical attraction between me and this new guy. On the 4th day of our meeting, he suddenly kissed me. I kissed him back and this continued for almost 30 mins where we were ki...

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Moving Forward- non-existent love life.


Posted Monday November 27 2023, 10:23 pm

So, I do not have the best of luck with men and I think it is because I need to do a lot of mental healing. With that being said, I have these unhealthy crushes on guys for years and nothing ever happens. I also have this really unhealthy cycle where if I like a guy they won't like me back or if a guy likes me I do not like them back. Honestly, I think it is a curse and I think I am destined not to have anyone in my 30's. Moving forward, I've had an unhealthy obsession with a guy that I have liked for years. I have terrible social anxiety and have never spoken to him much before...I have met this guy through a mutual interest and think he is the weirdest guy ever. During events, I used to catch eyes with him all the time and he would purpos...

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How do I move forward?


Posted Wednesday November 22 2023, 9:14 am

23 f
Ok so before I start let me just say I am writing this as I think about it so it may be a little all over. So in March I got this message on a language app from this guy. But really I was receiving a lot of messages so I would reply really late etc. But his messages stood out because he was actually trying to teach me about his culture and about the language I am learning. So one day I said that we should make a call since then we can actually have a conversation. We did eventually talk on the phone and eventually by a video call. It was not boring and soon enough we talked everyday for months. Literally every day. Obviously then I started to have a crush on him and I told him. He admitted that he does have a crush on me since ...

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Husband is upset about an issue that does not bother me


Posted Monday November 13 2023, 9:48 am

My husband is very upset about our neighbor directly behind us. This neighbor’s yard is a complete mess – piles of sticks, logs, multiple compost piles, and lots of very overgrown plants. I agree that this is totally out of line (as do our friends/relatives that have come over and seen it), but I am also able to make my peace with it and concentrate on other issues in my life that I have more control over. This is a huge issue for my husband. He can’t stand it so much that he occasionally considers selling our house and moving. He has called the village to complain and has been working with them, but that has had very little impact on the yard so far. My husband then gets angry with me because it doesn’t bother me. I know he feels ...

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Boyfriend doesn't have time for dates anymore


Posted Sunday October 15 2023, 5:16 pm

Me and my boyfriend got together last spring, but we've known each other for about 5 years now. At first, it was amazing, but shortly after getting together, he got a second job. How he's working his regular full time job Monday thru Friday, then he's on call for his second job from Friday at 6 to Sunday at 4. And that's just when he's on call. If he gets a call at 3:45, he still has to go and often spends about 3 hours per call. This has led to a complete stagnation with plans and dates. We can't go out anymore because things will be closed by the time we drive to them and can't plan anything ahead of time because he might get a last minute call. I've noticed I've grown resentful of the fact it feels like we can't do any outings anymore. I...

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getting over my ex


Posted Wednesday September 27 2023, 3:23 pm

i love my new boyfriend but i think im still in love with my ex . its causing problems in my rekationship and i dont know how to get over my ex so that i move on

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What kind of partner is good in the long run?


Posted Monday September 4 2023, 10:18 pm

I currently have a bf and we are doing long distance. I'm still in school and he's working back home to save up for our future (we've talked about marriage). However over the past year of us being apart it has made me question if he is the right guy for me.

My dilemma is that he is and has been the best bf I could ever ask for. He loves me unconditionally, supports me, seen me at my worst and yet still loves and worships me. He would literally do anything to the best of his abilities to make me happy. He is completely different from any of the exes I've been with and that's what drew me to him. On the flip side the one thing that I find lacking in him and our relationship is the sense where I feel like he inspires me to grow...

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heartbroken


Posted Friday September 1 2023, 5:37 pm

So my boyfriend is wonderful to me. but one night he got a phone call from a female and acted really weird about it, so i looked at his phone and found some messages. I called the girl and she told me everything. He denied it all even with all the messages she sent me. I really dont feel like he did but am i just being crazy? I feel the love he has for me. Hes never done anything to make me question him.


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My boyfriend broke up with me !


Posted Friday September 1 2023, 10:49 am

I am a 34 year old female and I was this amazing guy for almost 11 months and out of the blew he calls me on his way home from work and says we need to talk. I knew when he said that it wasn't good . He picked up from my mom's house where I live and I get in the car and saw the look on his face like he was about to cry and I said you are about to break up with me aren't you? He says yes. He says I didn't do anything wrong he just fell out of love , but the thing is up until the time he picked me up to tell me there were no signs. We never fought. Everything seemed great. He does have Bipolar disorder. But he never got mad . He just got real happy one minute and really depressed the next . He still wants to be friends. I am going through so ...

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Posted Wednesday August 9 2023, 12:28 am

If a guy acts like he likes me some days but then the next second he may be hard to read what should I do


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Dates for First Kiss


Posted Tuesday August 1 2023, 7:02 am

Hello, I'm a 34 year old male. I've been with my girlfriend for 5 dates now, and they have all gone very well. We get along well, and there's never been the awkward silence of dread. However, we have not kissed yet. Is it normal to go this long without one? And should it be the girl to ask for one, or the guy to ask for one after seeing a girl's nonverbal cues? She hasn't made any nonverbal cues yet, btw.

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Maybe he's just not ready for a commitment ..


Posted Sunday July 30 2023, 3:01 am

I've been with him for almost 3 years now, 1st year was amazing 2nd year was full of break-ups and 3rd party was involved, he cheated on me, but somehow we overcome the issue and decided to continue and we are still working on the relationship, sometimes i feel alone, i can't seem to find him all in, anyway we travelled so many countries and finally last month we went to Peru, his hometown where we stayed with his family for 2 weeks and to be honest it was so great.
2 days ago we were out with some friends, and somehow the commitment issue was on the table and everyone was just talking about how good/bad is the marriage and how happiness and commitment has nothing to do with each other, somehow i got the idea that he's not ready to t...

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Catching feelings


Posted Tuesday June 6 2023, 5:08 pm

Ever since I started school I've noticed this guy that kept staring at me. Like one time I was at a function and I saw him looking at me from across the room, and he never broke eye contact with me. Or even sometimes when I passed him in the hallway he'd continue looking at me almost as if he wanted to say something to me (but at the time we didn't know each other yet). Anyways as time went on I started noticing myself thinking about him and finding him attractive. Fast forward to today, fate happened and we got paired up to work together for an entire school at the dental clinic. He's been very communicative through text about managing our patients together and he'll often come to my cubicle and talk to me after I'm done with the appointme...

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about how he thinks


Posted Friday May 26 2023, 12:43 pm

so, there is this guy at school i joined this school this year and now its only a month left but i've had a crush on his since half the year he's 11th nd im 10th and once i noticed him i looked at him and when i do he almost always looks back or i sometimes catch him looking at me even while he's talking to his friends and i have no idea if he like me because he doesn't smile while looking at me, well neither do i but that's because im nervous thinking he might not smile back and well people tell me im pretty but gosh i have no idea if he'll ever approach shoukd i follow him on instagram, should i approach and how? i really like him

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Am I wrong and how do I trust?


Posted Sunday April 30 2023, 7:33 am

I started dating a married man, we where both in bad marriages. I planned on leaving and he fell in love then lied to me saying he was in process of leaving. I found out the truth that he was having trouble leaving but now assures me he is and wants to give me proof in 1 week. Am I wrong for this? Then again how could I ever believe anything he says now?

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I can’t seem to pull the trigger on my divorce


Posted Thursday April 13 2023, 4:43 pm

My husband (36M) and I (35F) will be together 13 years, married for 10 years this summer. I have thought about divorcing him everyday for the past 8. We have a daughter (8F) together.

We we’re always fine until we moved to his hometown 8 years ago. Before that I was in the service and he was in construction. Once we got near his family- EVERYTHING changed.

His family, specifically his dad, is always around- every day - all day. I wake up and his truck is in my driveway. His other family members- mom, sister, uncle’s, grandparents are constantly here too. There is no peace. To the point where I cry (to myself) from frustration and now so does my daughter. We’re just like, “GO AWAY!”. They are all good ...

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Meeting my boyfriends daughter!


Posted Friday April 7 2023, 12:02 pm

I a 34 year old female with no kids of my own and never been married. I will have been dating this awesome guy for 6 months on April 27th that I am am in love with . His daughter from a previous marriage who lives in California to Georgia where we live for a visit for the whole summer in July. I am concerned she won't like me . I am really excited about meeting her , but I also nervous because I've never been around any kids besides family and don't want to do or say the wrong thing to make the 6 year old not like me . He wanted me to go Disney world with them for her birthday,but I politely declined because I feel like that should be a trip with just her and her dad and I don't want to intrude to early in the relationship. I was wondering ...

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